• Chris Glaittli

Are you Harper, Leah, or Nikki?

Updated: Aug 2, 2018

If you have not the Netflix original, Ibiza, I need you to stop what you’re doing, grab some wine, and queue it up.

There are A LOT of spoilers from this point on so if you need my login, I’m happy to give it to you. If you have watched the movie, please read on as this will only make sense to you.

I just finished watching Ibiza for the second time and let me tell you something, this movie is the raunchy, hilarious, romantic comedy I’ve been waiting for. I truly think it is one of the movies that describes our generation to the letter because it encompasses so many aspects we go through in the areas of work, friendships, and romance.


Being the hopeless romantic that I am, that’s what I’m going to focus on.


Let me break down it down for you: We are all Harper, Leah, and Nikki at some point of our lives. The worst thing about dating in today’s world is the fact that every encounter you have is so very different which is why it is also the best thing about dating.


Takeaway from Harper: If you feel a connection with someone, go for it.


Take Harper (played by Gillian Jacobs) for example; she had zero plan to meet up with a guy when she went to Barcelona (none of them did really) and yet when she clapped eyes on Leo West, the infamous DJ, (played by Richard Madden), she is swept up and the tension between the two of them is instant, even she’s got a huge dick drawing on her face.


I’m 100% not encouraging anyone to use a work trip to fly to Barcelona and then catch a quick plane ride to Ibiza for that special someone. The movie definitely made that seem more possible than it actually is but Harper’s willingness to walk into the unknown and put herself out there is something worth paying attention to. When I watched the movie, a quote from my favorite musical kept popping into my head, “Opportunity is not a lengthy visitor”.


Takeaway from Nikki: Be yourself. Someone is into it.


Now Nikki (Bayer) is another story, she’s the very first character to meet her beau in the movie and proceeds to text and call him throughout the entire movie and can’t wait to return to Barcelona to see him.


Nikki is high on my list of favorite aspects about this movie. All three of these women redefine the concept of what is sexy and what is beautiful but Vanessa Bayer’s character is the one character I kept saying “same” in my head in almost all of her scenes. When I was figuring out my sexuality, I also was figuring out how to be “sexy”. I thought shirtless pics with rippling abs and big arms was the way to get a guy's attention. I thought I couldn’t look or act clumsy. The word “robotic” comes to mind when I think about how I was when I was at the gym as a teenager.


The thing is that’s not realistic and impossible. If you’re new to figuring out love or a veteran of the dating games like me, you have to be 100% you. Period. There’s multiple people out there that are into the greatest and clumsiness parts about you. Embrace them and get out there.


Takeaway from Leah: Unapologetically live in the moments.


Now Leah holds a special place in my heart. First, shes played by Phoebe Robinson, host of the podcast, So Many White Guys and co-host of another podcast, Two Dope Queens with Jessica Williams. She is one of my most recent role models for about a thousand reasons. The other reason is because her character is all about sexual freedom and having a good time which is where something I think we can all work on. Now, most of you probably read “sexual freedom” and “having a good time” and re-labeled it with the word “slutty” but when it comes to Leah, that isn’t the case at all.


This isn’t a new concept for anyone. We hear it all the time. Leah’s willingness to meet new people, experience life and meet up with someone for what seems like a good night (the movie doesn’t really go show details) is the kind of thing I’ve been trying to work on all my life. Living in a state where the majority of the 20 to 24 year olds are married and already have a baby, it’s fairly easy to panic about the future and landing a spouse. Shocking as it may seem, we gays also panic about those things too so watching Leah navigate how to approach living in the moment in this movie was both hilarious and insightful.


[Love you Pheebs.]



So which Ibiza character are you? There’s no exact answer on this one, folks. All I know is that this move may not win an Oscar but it does give you something to think about. If anything, it’s too hilarious not to watch.